The decision to end a marriage is not an easy one. The knock-on effects of a divorce are significant emotionally and financially, and have a massive impact on practical arrangements for family life. A divorce signifies a huge life-change for everyone involved. At the beginning of the process it is difficult to imagine how the next few months will pan out. Obtaining legal advice from the outset will give you the guidance you need in respect of the legal process.
We understand the emotional trauma you may be facing and will provide you with effective and straightforward divorce advice, as well as a friendly ear and real consideration as to the best way to look after your interests.
It really is true that you don’t know what divorce is like until you’re getting one.
The Huffington Post recently published a series of quotes from people who’ve recently experienced divorce and the things they wish they knew. Here are a few choice quotes that we hope will offer a little insight.
Divorce isn’t an option until it’s the only option.
“I really wish those ‘I want my first marriage to be my only marriage’ memes would just go away. No one goes into a marriage intending for it to end in divorce. Sometimes you fight like hell and work your tail off to keep your marriage afloat but realise you’re doing it alone. It takes two people to make a marriage and family work but if the other person doesn’t want to be with you, there’s not a whole lot left for you to do. It’s hard to ‘give up’ on your marriage but at some point you realise that there’s more to life and you have to do what’s best for you and the kids in the long run.” — Brittany Lewis
No two divorces are the same.
“This is because no two people are the same. What this adds up to is an endless combination of ways people choose to heal. Don’t judge, don’t pooh-pooh and don’t minimise the form a person’s grief takes. I was in a very controlling relationship and because of that, some of my friends thought that I would be so relieved to get out of that relationship — or that I would get over it more quickly. The truth is, you can’t really know how a person will respond.” — Lisa Miller
Divorce feels a bit like a death in the family.
“I wish people would understand that divorce is a death without a funeral. It represents the end of something that started out with so much promise and hope; it’s painful when that hope dies. Sometimes I think that divorce has become so routine that it’s not taken seriously enough and that devalues marriage.” — Wendy Mooney
Divorce isn’t a dirty word.
“It’s OK and healthy to talk about divorce. It’s not a secret and shouldn’t be treated as such.” — Lauren Wood
Ending a marriage is never easy.
“Divorce is anything but the ‘easy way out.’ Making the decision to get divorced is life-altering. There’s nothing easy about it.” — Aly Marie
We don’t underestimate divorce and the effect it can have. It is a sad and challenging time for you and your family. It is our job to deal with the legal requirements, comply with court deadlines and advise on current legislation, just as it is our job to support our clients through a difficult time and achieve the best possible outcome in the circumstances. This last quote sums up how a lot of our clients feel as they emerge from the process. At the beginning or in the midst of the emotional rollercoaster, it might help to remember why you are where you are.
There’s a silver-lining to divorce.
“While divorce is devastating, it is also liberating.” –- Malen Lim
If you would like to talk with our divorce lawyers, please call 0161 969 3131.
(Quotes taken from The Huffington Post 12 Things You Don’t Understand About Divorce (Until You Get One) by Brittany Wong 22/06/2015.)