A greying subject?

There’s been a great deal of talk lately about divorces involving older parties, affectionately termed “silver divorces”.

In years gone by divorces were certainly not as common and people took the view that it was better to stick it out than to endure the shame of divorce. Nowadays its commonly accepted that sometimes relationships don’t work out – and there is no shame in admitting it and moving on to a happier, spouse-free life. The older generation may not have caught on to this as quickly but all the latest media seems to indicate that has been a sea change – more and more older people are getting divorced.

I personally used to think that there was little point in older clients going through such an emotional and painful process at the end of what had probably been a long and very compatible marriage. What would be achieved?

My views were recently changed. I was fortunate to meet with a spritely older man who had separated from his wife of 50 years. They had lived under the same roof but separate and apart for many years. His wife was pleased that they had decided to separate – there was no animosity whatsoever. It was time to get this gentleman’s future planned out and I hope that I assisted him in doing this and also in protecting his position.

After there was discussion between my client and his new partner about a marriage proposal I was pleased to be the first to congratulate them. I genuinely felt positive about what the future would hold for this gentlemen and his new lady. It left me feeling that in fact, older people have even more incentive to move on with their lives and get their affairs in order. I can therefore say I support silver divorces wholeheartedly, if it leaves both parties free to enjoy the remainder of their lives.

On a more serious note, there are reasons why you may or may not chose to dissolve a very long marriage at pensionable age and this will depend your particular circumstances. You should always seek advice from a specialist family lawyer.